Monday, July 26, 2010

I am a gay teenager in rural US. My entire family is devoutly Pentecostal Christian. I've heard my mom say that if any of her children come out to her, she'll put them on the curb. I love my family, but how can I go on knowing they might not love me?

This is a hard question to answer. Everyone fears losing their family when they come out. I have had friends who have been kicked out of home. I have not grown up in your world but I understand your fear.

All I can say is that you should think it through. I would never tell anyone to stay in the closet but coming out is a very personal experience. I guess if I was in your situation I would think about who I wanted to be. I am a great believer that all things happen for a reason.

One of the reasons I told my parents I am gay is because I wanted, for better or worse for the to know who I really am. Your parents may surpise you but then again they may not.

It may be better to wait until you have your own independence.

I can't give you the answer to this question but in all our lives there is a cross road where we must choose who we will be. The love of family is important but equally as important is your own love for yourself.

Ask me anything